As a priest in north Belfast
from 2003 until coming to Paris
in 2008, I was involved in the aftermath of over 20 suicides. Each is etched on
my mind and I will never forget one of them. I also met many families and
groups throughout Ireland in connection with suicide. During those five years I met heroic people who
didn’t lose hope. They have inspired me.
The book has two parts. The first part concentrates
primarily on the pastoral needs of the family and surrounding community in the
immediate aftermath of a death by suicide. The time from the discovery of death
of a loved one to the funeral goodbye will be taken step by step, showing which
elements seem to be particular to a death by suicide. I also suggest what I
have found helpful and point out some of the pitfalls that are best avoided. While
the book is written from the perspective of a Catholic priest, I hope it will
offer support, encouragement and practical suggestions to people of all beliefs
and none.
The second part traces some of the challenges along
the way in the first year after death and suggests some helpful pastoral
responses. The emergence of suicide support and prevention groups in many
places will be examined and some suggestions offered about how to start such a
group where one is needed. Finally, the care of pastoral workers will be
examined.These generous people also
need support and help so they do not become exhausted and eventually
ineffective in their reaching out.
Suicide has become a political issue that will
increasingly make demands on dwindling resources. It remains a religious issue
that requires an ongoing examination of attitudes and practices.
Aidan Troy, C.P. parish priest, St Joseph’s Church, Paris,
France
